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Since I’ve been self-employed, I’ve received lots of congrats, questions, and even negativity. I almost lost a friendship, I’ve had people not understand what I do, and I’ve even had some people scoff when I tell them I’m able to make a full-time income from home. If you are a mompreneur, you’ve probably received these comments as well. While the occasional negative comments will never truly go away, there are ways to answer back. Here are a common mompreneur myths I’ve heard, and how I deal with them.
Work Is Always Fun
“How could you be stressed out? You get to stay at home all day and play on the computer!”. Yep, I’ve actually gotten that comment before. Now I’m not saying my business isn’t fun, because it can be, and I love being able to do what I do every single day. But just because I work from home, doesn’t mean I play around on Google all day.
I typically answer with “My job is fun, but I still have struggles just like anyone who works in an office! I’m a business owner and I have to manage all of the day-to-day tasks as well as make sure my clients are happy!”.
You Don’t Even Have A Job
Surprisingly, this comment came from a family member. While it stung, I realized that people don’t realize you CAN make money online, even though it’s 2017 and becoming a super popular option. When it comes to this statement, I don’t really have an answer. I’ve been known to be petty and show my bank statement though.
You Should Be Free At Any Time
There have been SO many times where someone will call me and get mad when I don’t answer, or drop by unannounced and get upset at the fact that I can’t hang out. People think that just because I work from home, I work when I want. While this is true to a degree, I still have business hours, and I work on a planned schedule. When I’m not working, the last thing I want to do is take time away from my daughter to go out and party. Sorry, not sorry.
You Should Be Spending All Of Your Time With Your Kids
“Why would you need your husband home when you can take care of your daughter and work at the same time?”. No, I really can’t do both, not perfectly anyway. My work is usually laser-focused, and I’m often juggling 3-5 projects at a time, not including my own blog and random tasks that clients need help with. While I love my daughter, she’s not the sit still type of kid. She loves running around and getting into things.
I HAVE to have dedicated work hours because if not, nothing will ever get done properly. So, my husband stays home full time to homeschool her and give her that one-on-one attention she needs, and I get to spend some much needed time with her once all of my work is finished. If I tried to both raise my daughter and work, my work wouldn’t be up to my expectations, and my daughter wouldn’t get the attention she deserves. However, I give major props to single moms who are able to work from home full-time and take care of their kids. If you have secrets to how you manage that, I’d love to know.
You Should Be Able To Get Everything Done
I do a lot, and I’m proud to admit that. Even with my 50+ hour work weeks (30-35 hours for clients, and 15+ hours on my blog), I’m able to take care of the home, make time for activities with family and friends, and still indulge in taking care of myself. But that doesn’t mean I’m perfect. Sometimes, laundry doesn’t get done on my designated days. Every now and then, a dish or two will sit in the sink. Sometimes I don’t get around to writing a blog post.
People think that because I work from home, I should have all the free time in the world to do everything on my to-do list I am highly organized and productive, but I’m not perfect. So, if I have to reschedule something, or say no to something, I just say it straight up. I don’t owe anyone an explanation on why something didn’t get done on time.
You Have A Lot Of Support
Now, this may be true for some mompreneurs, but I know many who don’t have any support at all. While I was blessed enough to have a supportive husband, many people didn’t understand my journey to entrepreneurship. I had a few people get upset when I wouldn’t answer calls, or when I had to cancel plans. I even had people ask me why I would even want to work on my own.
I’ve come to learn that many people find it hard to support something they don’t understand. Many people still think my work is a scam because they really don’t know what it is I do! They say there’s no possible way I make $5k+ some months because that’s “just not possible”. But it is. So how do I handle it? Well…I don’t. My best answer to this one is to cut out the negativity. It’s hard, but if you want to succeed as a mompreneur, you have to let go of the things (or people) that tear you down. Let them be negative somewhere else.
You Only Made It Because Of Your Significant Other
This is one of the mompreneur myths that I laugh at the most! I’ve gotten it often. “Well, the only reason you’re successful is that you have a husband”. My answer? Say that to all of the single moms who are making 6-figures in their business while raising their kids.
I am not afraid to share my journey with anyone. Yes, I have a husband. No, he’s not the reason I’m successful. In fact, I’ve shared before that I was the breadwinner when I started my business. We lost over 70% of our income when I was let go from my former employer, but I was hustling long before then (I side hustled while working 60-70 hour weeks). You know how I made it? Hard work, perseverance, and a savings account that I contributed to. That’s my secret.
Also, when I first started my side hustle that would eventually turn into my business, my husband worked nights, so after getting home from working all day, I had to side hustle while taking care of my kiddo. So I never really had help when trying to build my business. While I love my husband, I didn’t get to where I am because of him. I got to where I am because of me.
Not Every Mom Can Be An Entrepreneur
This is one the biggest mompreneur myths that people believe, and it’s SO WRONG. Every single mom can be an entrepreneur, you just have to want it bad enough. I don’t have a college degree, I had a baby when I was 20 years old, and I never made more than $25k before I started my business. If I can do it, any mom can.
It’s Expensive To Be An Entrepreneur
Wrong again! I started my business for less than $100. You’d be surprised at how many people think it’s impossible to be cheap and start a business. Actually, many people think I spent a small fortune on my business. When I tell them I started for less than $100, I see shock run across their faces.
I’m all for being frugal and bootstrapping your business when you first start, and this is just one of those mompreneur myths that I think needs to disappear. It’s easier (and cheaper) than ever to start a business, especially with all of the resources you can find online!
These mompreneur myths have scared many new moms into believing they can’t be home with their kids while bringing in an income, and I’m here to say don’t listen to any of them! You can be a successful entrepreneur and still be a mom. While I may have to sacrifice things sometimes, I wouldn’t trade any of this for a full-time job outside of the home.