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So, you’ve decided that you want to be an entrepreneur, and you only see one tiny issue… the toddler hanging onto your leg everywhere you go. The little boy or girl that likes to open the door of your bathroom while you are in there, just hoping for a few seconds of peace. As crazy as it is to believe, you can still become an entrepreneur while raising your children, and here’s how.
Realize That You Will Never Have A Work-Life Balance When You Become An Entrepreneur
Did that burst your bubble a bit? It may sound harsh. But your first step into this journey is to realize that you will never have a complete balance of your work and home life. There are so many articles that claim they can help you achieve this mythical balance. But the truth is that something will always come in second place. Which will it be, your business or family? Would you drop what you are doing for your business to care for your toddler when they need something? Will you have to separate yourself for a few hours to get things done? That is something that you have to choose for yourself.
Now, after you have chosen which will be first and second, learn how to work with your handicap. If you choose your family, you will realize that sometimes you can’t work on email marketing or social media, because your toddler will be sick or clingy. If you choose work, know that you may miss a few playdates or tumbling classes.
It is important to choose which takes preference in your life, so you can juggle your goals and aspirations. As women, we may seem like superheroes, but the reality is, we aren’t. You can only be in one place at a time, and multi-tasking rarely works.
You don’t have to have everything figured out to start a business. When I first started, I pitched myself as a freelance writer and virtual assistant (here’s a really great course to learn what a VA is and does and launch your own business).
Now, I’m a course launch expert, workflow strategist, and mentor. Did I expect my business to go this route? Not really! But, I leveraged my work and my clients to learn more and pivot. I found out what I was good at and found a niche that I could break into.
To become an entrepreneur, you’re typically told to just start. And the same goes for you, even if you’re raising kids. You have to just start. Take something you’re good at, and market the hell out of it.
Get a Mentor or Coach
Building a business and trying to become an entrepreneur is like baking a cake. There is a possibility that everything can be ruined if you miss one simple ingredient. You can always build your business the trial and error route, and many women have done so (including myself). However, getting a mentor or coach at any stage of your business can help you navigate through tough decisions and moments.
You don’t have to have a mentor or coach the entire time you are running your business, but at least consider one for times that you know something is out of your expertise. This is especially helpful when you don’t have the time or energy to figure something out all on your own. As a mom, you can even look for those who cater to moms (like me, I created an entire membership and business around helping other moms), or who are moms themselves.
Not only will a good mentor or coach steer you in the right direction, but they can also bring fresh ideas to the table and hold you accountable. I know as a mom, I can become forgetful. Sometimes my thoughts slip away because I don’t have the opportunity to write them down. A mentor or coach can help you set and achieve your goals, and remind you to keep yourself on track.
I myself have invested in a few consultants and coaches. If I need help with one specific problem, like crafting the perfect elevator pitch, I’ll typically hire a consultant that specializes in that field. Or, if I need more one-on-one help and accountability, I’ll pay for a coach.
If you choose to invest in a coach, just make sure they’re close to the same field as you, that they have a great track record (and testimonials), and that you read their terms and conditions carefully. I have heard of some horror stories, so just be careful and do your research. However, finding a great coach is like the icing on top of a cake, because they really can help you uplevel your business!
Don’t Be Afraid To Get Help
Our lives are only getting busier. Notice I said busier, not more productive. Isn’t it funny how our mother’s, grandmother’s, and great-grandmother’s always seemed to have the house spotless, their makeup fresh, dinner on the table, and happy well-rounded children? Yet, we as working women feel bad for the few dishes we leave in the sink or the fact that our toddler ate chicken nuggets for the third night in a row.
The fact is, our times have changed. Now, many women work outside the home, and if they don’t, they aren’t sitting at home baking and tending to the children. Many women now have work from home jobs, and pursue interests outside of homemaking. If you love homemaking, there is NO problem with that. But you also shouldn’t feel guilty if homemaking doesn’t come easy to you, or if you don’t have the time to complete things the way your grandmother could.
What can you do?
However, we can all take a little advice from the older generation of women. And that advice is to get help when you need it. Many women in our grandmother’s time had a husband that worked all day so they could be at home. Those that didn’t could rely on their families. Also, contrary to popular belief, many families had nannies and housekeepers.
You can still become an entrepreneur if you ask for help. You can still devote your time to your children if you have a nanny three days a week. It’s okay to have a healthy meal at home, even if it means you didn’t cook it yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting help when you need it. You just have to decide what’s important to you and your household.
And even if that means asking your significant other, friends, or families for help and support, there is no reason for you to feel guilty. Society likes to make us believe that if we don’t do things 100% ourselves then we’re failures as women, and that’s just not true. Don’t let some stupid societal norms dictate what you do with your life and household.
Automation is amazing when you are trying to become an entrepreneur because it saves so much time! It can be simple things, like automatic bill pay, or a system that schedules your social media. The key is to automate things that you would rather not spend a lot of your precious time on.
Can you have an autoresponder or canned response to reply to customers and clients while you spend time with your toddler on the weekend? Great, set it up. Do you hate dealing with Pinterest? Awesome, get a program that helps you batch your pins.
Automating the menial tasks in your business and home life can be a huge time saver and stress reliever. It will also give you more time to be with your little ones. And maybe, just maybe, will even let you take a nap every once in a while. Automating can maybe even become your new best friend.
Celebrate The Little Moments
The greatest moments when you become an entrepreneur are most likely the little things. For example, many of you may still remember your first client, even if all they did was ask for the completion of one task.
The reason you remember them is that they became a small milestone in your business. Your first client probably didn’t pay much, and you most likely aren’t working with that client anymore, but you still have that memory.
The same can go for any small milestone or moment. Even if it’s just celebrating the ten followers you got in one night, celebrating the little moments in your business can help you cherish your family a little more.
Since you won’t be hung up on the massive goals you have, you won’t be stressed or irritable when your toddler asks you to play blocks with them. In return, you will be happier and so will your family, babies included.
How You Can Become An Entrepreneur While Raising A Toddler
These tips may not be new to you. However, they need to be shared time and time again. When you become an entrepreneur, you may be overwhelmed. Between your daily to-do list and business tasks, it’s easy to feel that way. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Implementing these tips can help you be a better mother, a better business owner, and hopefully, a better you.